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●General Guidelines for the Bereaved（第1页）

●GeneralGuideliheBereaved

&hbeadifficultsubject。Whilemostpeoplewillhavereadtheobituaryormayaskothershowthedeathoccurred，youshouldbepreparedtoahisquestion。Espetheeventofasuddehbroughtiexplainedces。

&hecauseofdeathiuarywillhelpallaythe“eion。Horoaquisitivenessofvisitorstothefuneralisapurelypersonalde。Ifthedeceasedhaspassedooanillnessyoudoodiscuss，sucerorHIV，orsuicide，prepareaahe“eion，butdohee。Visitorsmaymerelybemakiionandhopingtogiveyouaveoexpressyrief。

Isomeoendsghoursthatyouparticularlydonotlike，bepolite。Iaerayyoutoaskthefuoescortavisitorout。Yourattitudewilldomuchtokeepdisruptionsfromhappeeveryoahemknowyouaretouchedbytheirefforttopaytheirrespeeralisrievaerrudeness。

Youwilllikelyseepeopleyouhavenotseeninyears!Aswithanygathering，youarethehostorhostessandmustmakeaospeaktoeawhoatteisnotyourresponsibilitytoseekthemout，itisyourresponsibilitytomakesurethereisaguestsign-inbook。Thiseoknowwhoattendediethethank-youcard。Trynottospendanioftimewithowopeople。Ifyouhavealottocat，iovisityouafterthefuneral，ormakeplansforalue。Thiswillhelpbothofyouihtheeffectsofthedeath。

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Maaluheirhravesideservice。It’satimetobealittlemhtheartedthahewakeorfuneralandsharealaughasyouremihedeceased。

■Thank-youNotes

Anyoediftorily，deservesathank-younote。Exampleswouldbetothankanyonewhohassentinamemorialtributihtfoodtothehousefamily，sentflowers，oriangiblewayaowledgedthedeath。Thosevisitorswhoattendtheghoursdohank-youcard。

Itissuggestedthatthank-youhihedeath。Ihank-younotesincludedapersohegrievingfamily，buttodayasimplethank-youcardwithasignature，isaccepted。Manypeopleincludeapersonalnoteorahahank-you，butthatisapersonalchoice。

◇ThankingClergy:Apersonalnoteisreehankingyyperson。Ifanhonisseieeihthethank-younote。

◇Pallbearers:Aseparateoeachpallbearerisreended。Personalmessagesofthanksreciatedbyeadividualwhograciouslyassistedinthisimportanttask。

◇Flowers:Forindividuals，youmaywishtoincludeapersonalwordortwoofthanksontheaentcard。Franizatioheheleaderofthegroupaoihemembersofthegroupinyournote。Ifindividualmemberhefloralcard，aseparatenoteshouldbesenttoeae。Youdooincludeapersonalmessageinthisinstaweresentfromagroupofneighborsoremployees，requireaseparatethank-youtoeathefloralayormaynotincludeahand-writtehanks。

◇FriendsedOut:Friendswhohavevoluheirhelpinanyway—suchasdrivingathefuneralpro，helpingthefamilywitharrasorfood，etc。deserveaseparatewrittenthank-you。Asstatedearlier，itisosendthank-youcardstofriendsorvisitorsthatstopinatthehomefamilyorthatattendtheghoursatthefuheneighborsorfriendswhohavevoluheirhelpareily，youmayfeelbetterthankingtheminperson。Inthisinstance，useymeermineifawrittennoteisnecessary。