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●Different Hierarchy of People Status（第1页）

●DifferentHierarchyofPeopleStatus

&urehasastrongsenseofhierartheanizationsorinthefamilies，peoplewhoighedifferencesofhierarchywillberegardedasbeingimpolite。Ihetraditiosofmonardofficials，fatherandsosarestilldeeplyrooted。Fatherhasabsoluteauthorityofhissoeachersalsohaveabsoluteauthorityofstudents。Familybadstillplaysanimportantpartinpeople’slives。Insuesefamilies，theeldershelptheyouolookafterthe。Thegrowuptoassisttheirparentstosupporttheelders。Thefamilymembershelpeachother。Theykeepiandilyrelationship。Iaihertrieshaveahereditaryaristodarigidhereditarysystem。WhilemostOtal，particularlytheAmeris，areadvogtheceptofequality。IedStates，veryfewpeoplewouldbeproudloriousfamilybadorfeelashamedofthemselvesfborninapoorfamily，becausetheyknowthattheywouldbesuccessfulthroughtheirowhereisap:“Ifwhard，evenacoresident。”ThereishierarAmerifamily:membersrespecteachother;parentsandaddresseachother’sheilyisratherweakandthemembersarenotusuallywillioomanysacrifiily。

ThefollowiailedetiquettedifferendOt:

&ingPraise

&udeswhieseareatpraisearedifferent。Thoughbeinghappyverymuesealwaysgivecourteousdenyingtoothers’praise，ioshowmodesty:“Stillnht!”，“So-so!”，“parewithyou!”，“I’mflattered!”。。。Otalattitudetoraisemaybe“veryjoyful”andsay“Thankyou!”

&ais

esearealwaysusedtothinkingaboutfromothersstandpointwhealongwithpeople，whichshguestsaguest。Guestsalwaystrynottoputthehostiherefuestsalwaysdeethehost’shospitalitypolitely。Foriaskswhatguestsprefertuestswillgenerallysay“Iamnotthirsty”or“Don’tbother”;whepoursthewisalwaysdee，say“Itisenough，itisenough!”Ismaywanttodrink，butjuststaherefore，thepetenthostwillnotaskdirectlywhatguestsrytuests’demand，aactively。Hospitablehostalwaysurgesthegueststoeatmoredishesanddriceaselesslyatdiherefore，theatmosphereoftertaisisoftenverywarm:hesceaselessly，guestsdeeceaselessly。

hehuest，everybodyisveryfrankwheertaihehostwillasktheotherpartdirectly“Whatwouldyouliketodrink?”Ifguestswanttodrink，theywillreply“whatbeveragesdoyouhave?”andchooseakiheylike;ifguestsdotuestswillsay“Thanks!Idonotwanttodriwillaskguestswhetherornotthedissay“ewillnotuetueststoeatmoredishesanddrinkmorewine。

&yandSelf-approval

esebelievethatthemodestyisakindofvirtue。oownabilityorat，esealwayslikeself-effat。Ifbecriticizedf“”antandovert”。Forihelecture，aesescholaroftensay:“mykdeepaionisiher，pleaseeverybodygiveadvients”（Infactheisveryeruditeaioe）;Thehospitablehostfacesthedishesonall-tablebutapologizingfornotshowingyouenoughhonorbyproperdishes;whentheleadershipgiveanimportanttask，eseusuallysaymodestly:“Iamprobablydiffipetent。”

Otaldonotbehaveasmodestasesedo。Theybelievethatobeself-approvalatfirstwheogetnition。Therefore，Otalalwaysevaluatetheirownabilityaobjectively。

■AdvidSuggestion

IaboutahdOtal，alllikeproposesomefrieionsaivesandfriehewaysofadvisingaingaredifferent。

&eionahefrielyandwouldlikeusingsomewordswithordertoaisverycold，youshouldwearmoredpreventgacold!“，“veryslipperyontheroad，walkslowly!”，“youshouldpaymoreattentiontoyourhealth!”，“youshouldshave!”，“youshouldgotobed!”。。。

Whealproposeaivesorfriends，thewordsareverymildaic，suchas:“itiscoldtoday。IfIwereyou，Iwouldputoer”，“youhadbettershavethebeard。”Eveniftothemostintimateperson，youshouldnottalkwithothersinaaherwise，youwouldbesideredlagofrespecttoother’sowpersonality。

■PershtofPrivacy

Otalattachgreatimportahepershtofprivaobodywouldiherside’s“privateaffairs”in。esedonotthinkmuchoftheindividualprivacy，especiallybetweeivesandfriends。Everybodylikeshaviheprivatelifeoftheether。Moreover，theelderquiretheprivatelifeoftheyouwill，iabouttheyounger。

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Otalareverytime-sdtheirschedulesareverypact。Theeseeisquitegeheuemporaryvisitandinviteareofonoce。

■SendingGifts

Otaldonotpaymutiontosendinggifts，hardlyevergthevalueofthegiftasimportamajorityofeserelativelyregardthevalueofthegiftasimportant，whichrepreseionofthepersos。

Inaddition，thewaysofsendinggiftsbetweendOtareobviouslydifferenttoo。Otalusuallyopesinfroersaheappretothegifts。Ifdoeshegiftfacetoface，thepresehieedoesesedoendtoshowthattheyardthemutualfriendship，erialbeself，asimportant。