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●Proper Dating Etiquette（第1页）

●PrEtiquette

Thesedays，peopleofteherhprofilepidpersoiohao-face，whichmakesitmorediffiilesaafeelforoher’senergy。Genderroleshavebeoreequalainct，whichmightseemtomakethepretiquetteofthisgeirasseemoutdated。Whileherelationshiplandscapehasgedretly，gooddatiillofgreatimportaestotheprocessofgettingtoknowsomeoically。

&Language

Mostpeoplehaven’tsaidanythingasstraightforwardas“Ilikeyou—willyougoouthaveadatewithme?”siheirmiddleschoolyears。Today，therearelotsofambiguousrequestsfordates，suttohangoutsometime?”or“Maybeweethiherohesedays。。。”Asmehemselvesonequalsocialpositieree。Thebottomlitheiriionsshouldbeclarified。Askingsomeoneifshewouldliketohavedinnerhtwillgivethatpersooacceptordeeyourinvitation，withaderstandingofwhaty。

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It’sagooddatioasksomeohplentyoftimetoplaablemeahingstodifferentpeople，assomepeoplehavefullarrahihegehumbistoaskforadateatleastaweekaheadofsaddition，whenplaioavoidsurprisesaekion。Thatroperlyforafi，theoperaoraparkandfast-foodjoint。

■DeInvitation

There’sproperetiquetteinaski，soofcoursethere’sproperetiquetteinturningdownaninvitatiohishappehebestpoliakeupanimaginarybirl-friehatyouwon’thurtsomeomightgivethemhopethatyou’llbeavailablesometimeiure。Ifyou’retrulyuedinyourdate，politelydeewithsomethingassimpleas，“Thankyou，butI’medinstartiionship。”If，however，youareiuherequestedday，offerupanotherspecificday。Adatealizedbetweeedpeopleandtheirdars。

■FotheDate

Whenonadate，fothepersoh。Youdon’twaewiththerealizationthatyourdateknowsalotaboutyou，butyouknownothingaboutyourdate。Theversationshouldbeafairlyequalexdpeoplelikeapersontobeagoodlistehee，anddoerestinthosearoundyouthanyourdate。Also，readyourdate’snon-verbalcues。Isshereadytogetopics?Gowiththeflowratherthanfaheory，ifoegoeswell，therewillbeotherdatesftokhermorefully。

■WhoPaystheBill?

Thereisgadviwhoshouldpayforadate。Traditionally，themanalays。Nowadays，holeswouldliketogoDutch（eaghisorherownway）。Someexpertsmayalsosuggestthattheaskershouldpayforthedate。However，iftheaskerwouldliketogoDutch，thatshouldbeclarifiedduringtheasking。Ifyou’vebeeasureofwhowillpay，it’swisenottoassumeanythingandbrihyou。

■LittleHabits

Ifyou’reasmoker，you’dbetternottolightupithyourdateoutside。Doyouabsolutebesttotrolthebadhabitsduringyourdate。Suchasgwithyourmouthopenwitches，foottappingfingers。Ifyou’reaplainer，ortotalkaboutwork，beawareofitinadvansciouslyalterthatbehaviorasmuchaspossible。Ifyoureallyenjoytalkingabion，politicsorsexoveryourfirstmealersohiopiesoyou’llalossformannerlyversation。

■EndingsandAfter>

&hedategoeswell，don’tassumeakissisagiven。Andifyou’reuhedatewentforyou，don’tdisappointyourdatebysayihingyoudon’tfeel，suchas，“Ihadawoime，let’sdoitagain。”Instead，findapolitewaytosaywhatyoureallyfeel。Ifyou’reoormovie—andthankthepersonfora。Whentwopeopleareiediheraosaydirectly，theendofadateisagreattimetoplaone—andmaybeevefirstkiss。Uheendofadateisobviouslytheendofsharedrelationship，phonecalls，emailsamessagesaresuretofollow。There’soplayguessinggamesoverwhento’twaittoolong，anduniyouwanttoudon’tmakesomanycallsorsendsomayouscareawaysomeonewholikesyou。