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Ⅲ Manners to Address（第1页）

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Youmayoftenfeelfusedabouthoeopleproperly。Manyfeelembarrassedtoaskthequestion，“WhatshouldIcallyou?”Forinstanendon’tknowhowtoaddresstheirboy-frieheotherside，someparentsdon’tknowwhattocalltheir’steacher。

Whyis“WhatshouldIcallyou?”suchadifficultquestiontoask?Perhapsit’sbecauseytheotherpersontoprovidetheirstatusorpositioionshiptoyours。Thispositionmayincludeage，job，edu，religioalstatus。

Inourcasualsociety，itisnaturaltousefirstelyuporangers（“HiJohyou。I’mClara。”）。Butitiste。Wheiosomeoivesorbeaddressedwithfirstherwise，oneshouldaddressanotheras“Mr。Ms。（lastisregardedappropriatetobeaddressedbyonameondshipisestablished（“PleasecallmeShirleynowthatwearefriends。”）Informalsituatioitlesuhepeopleyoumeettellyouotherwise。Todrawsomeoionyousay:“Excuseme，Sir”or“Pardonme，MadamMa’am。”Togreetsomeoneyousay:“Hell，MadamMa’am。”

Atitleisaprefixorsuffixaddedtoapersooemphasizeeitherveion，anofficialpositionoraprofessionaloracademicqualifi。Titlesmayeveweenafirstandlastnameinsomelaheformaltitlesflishspeakers:

◇Sir（adultmaleofanyage）;

◇Ma’am（adultfemaleforNorthAmeri）;

◇Madam（adultfemale）;

◇Mr。+lastname（anyman）;

◇Mrs。+lastname（marriedwomanwhousesherhusband’slastname）;

◇Ms。+lastname（marriedorunmarriedwoman;oninbusiness）;

◇Miss+lastname（unmarried>

◇Dr。+lastobyDr。+firstname）;

◇Professor+lastname（iting）。

Whileprofessional，academiilitaryandpoliticaltitles，suchas“Judge”，“ayor”，“Revereor”，“Doctor”，“Professor”，etc。，aresuitableforsocialsituations，nooffenseshouldbetakenbyanyonewheowiththetitles“Mr。”，“Ms。”，“Mrs。”and“Miss”iheUesistheoretiegalitariaherhonorifiotsideredtoshhersocialstatus。

&and-alonehonorifics“Miss”（forfemale）or“Ma’am”（foradultladies）maybeusedforapersonwhosesurnameisunknown。“Sir”（fentlemenregardlessofage），“Mister”shouldsown（asier”）foritsoundsimpn（“Seňor”isusedasbothatitleandhonorifiish，aeraltranslatioakeobeappropriateinEnglishasanishspeakers）。“Younglady”man”isooaddresspre-adolests，asthesetitlesareusuallytakenaspatronizing。

“Ms。”issideredthebetterdefaulttitletobeaddressedinwithanywoman’snameregardlessofmaritalstatus，uesanotherpreferehetitle“Miss”wassuitableforusebyunmarriedwomen，and“Mrs。”formarriedwomebinationsoftitles，thewoman’sgivenandfamilynames，andorthoseofherhusbandhavebeeacceptable。Anyperson’spersonalpreferenceshouldberespeceitismadeknown。

Nevergiveyourselfanhonorifistabeimpropertosay:“Hello，mynameisDr。Garcia。”Bettertosay:“Hello，mynameisSaraGarcia。IamChiefyatSt。John’sHospital。”Thisintroduakesanotherpersonfeelmorefortable。Itisalsosimplertostartaversationwithyourself-introdu。

Thereareplexrulesregardingpreofpoliticaltitlesie-relatedfieldknorotocol。

&imesyoumayhaveaionshipwithsomeoypicallygetscalledSir，Madam，Mr。orMrs。（Forinstanessexeotable，aprofessororapersohanyou）。Atsomepointthispersonmaygiveyoupermissiontoaddresshisherfirsthephrase“onafirstnamebasis”or“onfirsterms”isusedtodescribearelationshipthatisnotasformalasitseemsitshouldbe。aterelationshipsneedaninformalformofaddress:

◇Firstudents，）;

◇MissMr。+firstimesusedbydanusicteachersorchildcareworkers）。

&hepersorealizeit，theuseofafirstnameisaprivilege。Usinghonorificsshowsyourprofessionalismandsophisti。Today，properetiquettesuggestsusinganhonorifiysituationinwhichyouareaddressingapersonofauthorityordistin。Itisalwaysbettertoerronthesideofformalityratherthaninformality。