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Ⅰ Courtesy Begins at Home（第1页）

Ⅰ。CinsatHome

Eachfamilyhasitsownrulesforbehaviorenerallyilylearntheserulesfromchildhood。Therearefualrulesforbehaviorthatapplytoeveryfamily。Andayoungeasilykeepthegoodhabitsofbehaviorwheosdbeginsvisitinginotherhomes，ifheshelearnstheserulesandswellandisgoodatapplyihome。

Manyoldandlong-standingsrovedahegeioodtolearnandtouse。Soaresforcourtesyay，bethepresentdaypeoplemovearouravelmore，andderamountofthihanthatwasohismeansthatyoulearntohaions。

Iomakefamilylifemorefortableaitswillexpecttheirtoplycourtesiesihesamebasicrulesareapplicativewhenyougotoarestaurant，ortravel，orvisitatfriends’homes。

Mostofthedaily-livingcourtesiesarereallyverysimpletolearnandtoapply。Obediewhenyoungarelearninggoodbehavioray。Whealittleolderandderstandthatotherpeoplehavewaheyplykindnessaion。

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Thisissupreme。Yourlifemaydependonit。Itisallchildtolearntoobeyasuddenorder。Aparentmightcalltotheherfromaheshednize，suchasg“stop”tokeephimherfriwhenaes，himherfrtowardafireorhotstove，orfrastrangedog。Gradually，asthechildgrowsolderandfeelsreadytomakehisherownde，hisherparents’advidguidautesuchdirectorders。

■BesideratetoSibling

ThisisreallyapoheaGoldeoothersasyouwouldhavethemdountoyou。”

Courteoushabitsarehelpfultopreventquarrelingandunhappinesswheogether，andeveryonehashisherownwish。Ifopinionsarereallydifferent，familiesshouldtrytoworkouttheirproblemsbytalkingthemover。Oftenasolutionbereaserenity。Quarrelioahabit。Itisnottoodifficulttosolvethefamilyproblemsifthememberstrytobecourteous，eveniftheyareveryangry。

Kindnessisamagyinhumanbeings。Kindnessaihtinfamilyinallthemajiohefeelingthatiscalled“love”isgenerallyexpressedbysimplytryingtobekind。

&fulofOthers

Noeople，bothyoungandold，doimeinformalsituatiohata“well-brought-up”childwouldbetakenbyhishermothertovisitthemothers’friends。Littlegirlslearsy，aobow。Thewereexpectedtodothesethiheywentoutto“tea”，andoheywerespokento，theycouldspeakaomslikethesehavealmostvanished。Nowsuchbehaviorissideredtobe“Vi”or“oldfashioned”。

Politenessandfriehereasonswhyladiesintheolddays“called”upoheratheiralofeelsood”childwhohadtogo，allsdstarched，tovisitaladyofhishermother’sace。Thechildmaybehadstrictorderstositquietlyahecat，toalyonepieceofotaskformore!Atlast，though，thekodoandnotwhattodo，bealsituationisalmostaritual。

Buttoday，fewmothershavethetimeordesiretomakeformalcallsortohavevisitorsiernooninaformalmanner。Manymothersworkanddonothavemuchsparetime，whilemahersarebusyfortheirdailylifesuchaskeepinghouse，goingshonittees，thecartocallforatsdtakingtotheirlessonsandballgames。

&hershavethetime，theyalsoliketheirfriends。Ifyougowithyourmother，itisstillgoodbehaviortoaelyandiwaywhenyouareaskedaboutschool，yourlessons，oryourteamorclub，thoughyouwilledcurtsyorbow。Evenaninformalsituationanners。

Insomeoneelse’shome，youhadbestwaituntilyourhostesssuggestsyougooutsidetoplayorexploreherhouse。Ifshewarnsyouaborheredflowerbed，itisforyoursakethatsheisspeakiwantstosaveyoufromembarrassmeoftrouble。Whenadultsthispeakiwaytoteaayspeaksharplytoyou。Manyadultsdoiencefpeople。Itmaybehelpfulifyouuhatadultshavemanythingstoworryahem，aokeepytotheirproblems，eventhoughtheyarefondofyou。Youshouldbepatientwithadultsratherthanarguingwiththem。Thenyouwilllearheirbehaviorbetter。Youwillrealizethatsooeryouwillhaveadultproblemstosolve，andthatpatienceisagreathelp。Bothyouasaroundyoushouldtrybesttobethoughtfula。

Itisuoquarrel。Nothingisas“graceless”asafight。Whatabetakenwhehefamilywantshisheroantsitbadly，andeareallyhasanequalrighttohisherownway?Nothingbutlove，patienessandhumorworkundersuchsuchaspirit，mostproblems，bigandlittle，besolvedoratleastsettledinareasonabledis。

&herearehumaherearedifferendquarrels。Bothandadultsdisplayanger。ofteandslap;verylittleareevee!Thiskindoffeelingsmustbewell-trolled。Violentbehavioroheproblemsgreaterandmoredifficulttosolve。

■BeOrderly

Putyinorder。Makeyourbedandkeepyourroomasasyeyourtoys，books，aheyareisahelptoeveryone。Whehingtokeepyings，youbuyaboxorthegrocer，whiightdecorateailookbeautiful。

&hehomepleasant—yourhomeaswellasthehomeofothers。

Wipeyourshoesbefthehouse。

&sAreYourResponsibility

Youshouldpayeoyourpetandsupplyfoodandwaterregularlyforit。Keepyourpetoutoftroublebytrainingittostayiominditsmanners。Ofepetslikepetfrogs，turtles，fishorisotbetraiyouandyourfamilywouldenjoythemmoreiftheyarekeptsafelyinaspecialplace。

■DonotBorrowifYouHelpIt

Itisanimportantruleinyourwholelifebecausetheexgeofpossessios。Ifyouhavetoborrowsomethiassoonaspossible。Ifyouhavetoborrowmoney，youshouldhaveaplanfitbackatfirst，ahefullamountwithasihank-you。”Ifyouborrowg，equipmentofanykind，oratoy，youshouldtakegoodcareofitaurndundamaged，andofcoursethankthelender。Makesureyouwouldbbeeahabit。

Ibusinessworld，thereisaprocedureersonborrowsmoneyfromabankfirm。Thebnlegalpaperspromisiiharegularpaymentplan，andthesumborrowedmustberepaidwith“i”。Banksandlendingfirmsareverycarefulfoodreasonthatmoheywillnotleopersonswhodoheabilitytorepay。

&hers’Privacy

&erfereerson’smail，phonecalls，orpersoyourownwill。Ifyoutakeatelephoosomeoopassonquidcorrectly。Otherwise，youmightyroblemsforpeopleiftheydonotreceiveadessage。Acoupleofyearslater，wheny，aformationfromphonebeveryessentialtothesuccessofyourbusinessandyourow。

■ProperUseoftheTelephone

&elephoneisusedasaeopletouobstru。Itisneededinemergengthepoliceorthefiredepartment，orforsomeonewhoisinjured。Friendlybrielephousedforpranks。

Youeoplaygameswiththetelephoisbadforoersandthengiveridiculmessages。Itwillbriragicresults。

&herearemanymembersinafamily，itispoliteforeveryotobemoheremightbesomeiningcalls。

Youshouldplacecallscautiously;speakclearly;makeyourcallsasshortaspossible，forothersmaywaelephooo。Ifyoureceiveawrongnumbercall，youshouldmakeyourhecallersothatthesamemistakewilled。Ifyamessage，thankthedlethimherknowthatyouwilldeliverthemessagecautiously。

■AheDoor

Dohedoorunlessyouknowwhoisg!Hereroblem，becausewewaanimpressionofkiiswisetoidentifythecallerbefhimherieeahevisitorisfouofyourfamily，youshouldinvitehimhertoeinandsitdowobeexdgoahehostthatpanyhasarrived。Shoutiishersarepresentintheroomwheers，youshouldintroducehimhertoea。

Ifthecalleratthedoorisasalesperson，youhadbetteraskyourparentsorolderbrotherorsistertospeaktohimher。Ifyouareathomealoneersohedoor，orifanolderpersonotbewithyou，youcourteouslysuggestthatthesalespersoamorettime。Thiswillsavehimheroutofembarrassmenttoo。Itwouldbebetterforyoutoavoidmakinganypurisestosomeohedoorwhenyouarealoneaain。

&eastraoyourhomewhenyouarealone，forsafety’ssake。