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Text B Is Love an Art（第2页）

[13]Thisattitude—thatnothihantolove—hasuedtobetheprevaleloveiheeviderary。Thereishardlyanyactivity，aerprise，whichisstartedwithsudoushopesaio，whichfailssularly，aslove。Ifthiswerethecasewithay，peoplewouldbeeagertoknowthereasonsforthefailures，andtolearnhowonecoulddobetter—ortheywouldgiveuptheactivity。Sierisimpossibleinthecaseoflove，thereseemstobeoewaytooverethefailureoflove—toexamihereasonsforthisfailure，andtoproceedtostudythemeaningoflove。

[14]Thefirststeptotakeistobeeawarethatloveisanart，justaslivingisanart;ifwewaolovewemustprothesameroceedifwewanttolear，saymusig，try，ortheartofmedigineering。

[15]Whataretheepsinlearninganyart?

[16]Theprocessanartbedividedintotwoparts:oeryofthetheory;theother，themasteryofthepractice。IfIwaheartofmedie，Imustfirstksaboutthehumanbody，andaboutvariousdiseases。Whehistheoretiowledge，Iambynomeaheartofmedie。Ishallbeasterinthisartreatdealofpratileventuallytheresultsofmytheoretiowledgeasofmypracticearebleoouition，theesseeryofanyart。But，asidefrthetheoryandpractice，thereisathirdfaeingamasterinanyart—themasteryoftheartmustbeamatterofultimate;theremustbeheworldmoreimportantthahisholdstrueformusiedie，fortry—andforlove。And，maybe，hereliestheahequestionofwhypeopleinourculturetrysorarelytolearnthisart，iheirobviousfailures:ihedeep-seatedgforlove，almelseissideredtobemoreimportantthanlove:success，prestige，money，power—almostallyisusedforthelearningofhowtoachievetheseaims，andalmostheartofloving。

[17]Coulditbethatohingsaresideredworthyofbeihwhiearnme，andthatlove，whily”profitsthesoul，butisprofitlessinthemodernsense，isaluxurywehavenhttospendmuergyohismaybe，thefollowingdiswilltreattheartoflovingihefdivisions:firstIshalldiscussthetheoryoflove—andthiswillprisethegreaterpartofthebook;andsedlyIshalldiscussthepracticeoflove—littleasbesaidaboutprathis，asinanyotherfield。

Notes

1。Paracelsus:（1493-1541）SwissGermanRenaissancephysi，botanist，astreneraloccultist，fouhediseoftoxicology。Heisalsoknowionaryforinsistinguponusiionsofherthanlookingtoas。Modernpsychologyofteshimfthefirsttosomediseasesarerootedinpsychologiess。

2。sin:Ifapersonhassin，thereissomefreedomforhimorhertochoosewhattodoordecidehowtodoiomakeapermissibledifferenarginallowspeoplesomemeasureoffreedomtoprovewithinlimits。

3。faculty:aphysientalability，naturaloracquired，forapartidofa。

4。marriagebroker:Themarriagebroker，ormatchmakerwasaialadvisorandassistantinarrangedmarriages。

5。intermediary:ieagenteweeor，oramediumormeans中间人，中介，中间商

6。paethingceivedofasapaithavingparticularcharacteristics

7。infatuation:foolishandusuallyextravagantpassion，loveoradmirationwhimakeohinkclearlyorsensibly迷恋，痴迷

&ionsf

1。Intheverybeginningofthispassagebook，Frommclaimsthatloveiswhibeeasilyindulgedinbyanyardlessofthelevelofmaturityreachedbyhim。Doesthisapplyto?Howdoperceivelove?

&horclaimsthatmasteryofanartrequiresknowledgeahevideojustifythisclaim。Doyouthinkalleedtobejustifiedandsupported?

&horrelatestothephei”oflove，beiedwithbeingsucdpopular。Isthisstilltruetodayinourdiures?Whatassessmentdoyoumakeofyourselfasapotential“loveobjethepersonalitymarket?

&horbelievesthatlearoflovingislikelearofmusigortry。Isthisate?Isthereaweeofloviofthearts?Whatdiffereherebe?

5。Towhatdegreedoyoubelievetheoretioimprovetheabilitytolove?Ordoyoubelieveloveshouldbemoreoahahieeical?

After-readingAssig

OralWork

1。Populardmassmedia，ingmoviesandsongs，playanimportantpartinsolidatingpeople’svaluesandattitudestowardloveahelyriporarylovesongyoulikeahevaluesembodiedinthesong。DothevaluescidewithwhatFrommrevealsaboutmodernpeople’soflove?Arethereanygesordiscies?Repstoyourclass。

2。Ontoday’sso-calledpersonalitymarket，whatqualitieswouldposea“nicepaeively—thatwouldbesideredfashionableandsoughtafter?Workwithyourclassmatesandductasurveytofindoutaboutthetopfivemostdesirablequalities（persosaies）inbothmeystothedexplaiiesrevealaboutpeople’svalueorientations。

3。Doyouagreewiththeauthorthatmodernmen’shappinesssistsihrilloflookingattheshopingbuying?Whyisptiohegainingofhappiness?Discussthisquestionwithyourclassmatesroommates。Chooseaspokespersasofyourdisdreportthemtoyourclass。

4。Itissaidthatifolovehimselfherselfproperly，opossiblyloveothers。Doesthismeantheloveofoneselfesbefothers?Thenistheloveofoneselfafaotrism?FurtheryonthistopidoutwhatFrommandotherpsychologistssayaboutself-love。Repstoyoura3-miion。

WrittenWork

1。Doyoupersonallyknowatrulylovingperson?Whatqualitiesdoesheorshehave?ArethesequalitiesthesameaswhatFrommhasspeamely，humility，ce，faithanddise?Writeanessayofabout400wordstodescribethispersonfohisherqualitiesasalovingperson。

2。Whithispassagestrikesyouasmosttruthful，andwhichideastrikesyouasbeingabittoreveedowwoideasandlistfurtherevideosupportortradictthem。Exgetheresultsofyourworkwithyourclassmatesaheryourespohor’sideasinsimilarordifferent>

3。gthe“productiveorientation”（inParagraph1），Frommexplainsthatthemostimportantsphereoflovingisthatmanshouldgive—hegiveshislife，whichiswhataliveinhim（hisjoy，hisi，hisuanding，hishumor，hissadheoneheloves，bywhichhetriestoehismeansthatapersonhasproduakethelovepotent。ductasurveyamongurbanyouthtofihermpeoplearereadytobetheproduaromaionship。Whatarethethingstheyarewillingtoprive?Whatarethethifeelsecureaboutorarenotwillingtogive?Findoutaboutthesbehiahegiveriionshipareporttopresentys。

FurtherReadings

eandsinglelifebyFran

&ofLovingbyEri

&endhal

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