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第2章 下一站幸福 1（第1页）

第2章下一站幸福（1）

尽管每个人对幸福的理解不同，但是幸福的含义是从来不变的。幸福不是发生在我们周围的事——而是我们如何去看待周围发生的事。秘诀就在于，我们以积极的心态面对逆境，变压力为动力。幸福并不是祈求我们所没有的，而是享受我们所拥有的。

通往幸福的旅途

OurPursuitofHappiness

佚名Anonymous

Wechaseafterit，whenitiswaitingallaboutus。

“Areyouhappy？”Iaskedmybrother，Ian，oneday。“Yes。No。Itdependsonwhatyoumean。”Hesaid。

&ellme，”Iasked，“wheimeyouthinkyou>

“April1967。”Hesaid。

Itservedmerightfaseriousquestiontosomeonewhohasjokedhiswaythroughlife。ButIan’sanswerremiwhehinkabouthappiness，weusuallythiraordinary，apinnacleht—andthosepirarertheet。

Forachild，happinesshasamagicalquality。Iremembermakisihay，playingdrobbersinthewoods，gettingaspeakingpartintheschoolplay。Ofcourse，kidsalsoexperiencelows，buttheirdelightatsuchpeaksofpleasureaswinniinganewbikeisunreserved。

Ieeheceptofhappinessges。Suddenlyit’salonsugsasext，love，popularityazitbefht。Istillfeeltheagonyofedtoapartythatalmosteveryoneelsewasgoingto。ButIalsorecalltheecstasyofbeingpluobscurityataodahaJohnTravoltalook-alike。

Inadulthoodthethingsthatbringprofoundjoy—birth，lealsresponsibilityandtheriskofloss。Lovemaynotlast，sexisn’talwaysgood，lovedonesdie。Foradults，happinessisplicated。

Mydiarydefineshappyas“lucky”or“fortuIthiionofhappihecapaent。”Themorewejoywhatwehave，thehappierweare。It’seasytooverlookthepleasurewegetfromlovingandbeihepahefreedomtolivewhereweplease，andeveh。

Iaddedupmylittlemomentsofpleasureyesterday。FirsttherewassheerblisswhenIshutthelastlundhadthehousetomyself。Theaedm，whichIlove。Whenthekidse，Ieheirhequietoftheday。

Later，peadedagain，andmyhusbandandIeherpleasure—intimaesjustthekhewantsmegmejoy。

Youneverknoiur。WhenIaskedfriendswhatmadethemhappy，somementionedseeminglyinsignifients。“Ihateshopping，”onefriendsaid，“butthere’saclerkwhoalwaysdreallycheersmeup。”Anotherfrieelephoimeitrings，Ikhinkingaboutme。”

&hrillfr。Ooppedtoletaschoolbusturnohedrivergrinnedahumbsupsigwoalliesinaworldofmadmotorists。Itmademesmile。

erieslikethese。Toofewisterthemashappiness。

Psychologiststellusthattobehappyweneedablendofenjoyableleisuretimeandsatisfyingwork。Idoubtthatmygreat-grandmother，whoraised14andtookinwashing，hadmuchofeither。Shedidhaveaworkofclosefriendsandfamily，ahiswaswhatfulfilledher。Ifsheywithwhatshehad，perhapsitwasbecauseshedidobeverydifferent。