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第13章 每个成功者都知道的秘密 13（第1页）

第13章每个成功者都知道的秘密（13）

WhenmydaughterwassmallIlivingheradvifacerelybelievethatshealsoe。ForthemostimportantthingaDaddoisgethischildreadyforlife。NotthatIeverthoughtIwasreadybutatleastIhavebeeosurvivemyyears，sofar。SheusedtositrealeoronmylapandIwouldexplaieriesoflifetoher。Iwouldtellherofmoralsahatmadelifeasgoodasitpossiblybe。Yearslater，whenmydaughterhitthewoeenagedyears，shedidn'tacceptmyadviceasshedidi。Infact，sheobviouslydreadedit。HaveittoheranywaybecauseIwaosurviveherteenagedyears。Isurvivedthemsowhyshouldn'tshelisteakeinthekIhadfromtheexperienypast。ForyearssheomeforadvicebutIuedtosubmitit。NowthatIthinkofit，myfatherdidthesame。

Soon，toosooartedherowwasasthoughourseparatioedthatshewouldoneed，a，myadvice。Atfirstthiswasagoodthing，inthatIappreciatedthefactthatshethoughtmyorththetime。AfterawhileIcametotherealizationthatImightnotalwaysberight。Istartedtofearmyowoherquestions。

Mydaughterisnottheonlypersoniasksforadvice。Mywifedoesitinanoddway。IkheaoherquestionbutitisalmostasthoughshewantstoiimeswhenIgiveheradviceshetakesitinandbasicallymakesherowndeesshegivesmethatoddlookthatasks，"lawereyoubornoherwayIdomybest。

Mypareedtoaskformyadvice。Thiswasverydiffietouand。MostofmylifemyfatheraheoodirehowIshouldhauatioheoneswhosurvivedtheiryearssothattheycoulddirectmetowardcorrectdeowtherolesseemtuessIshouldtakeitasaehisshiftihattheyhavefiherealizationthatIamakiow，ifIlybelievethissamerealizationandfinallyrelaxinmynewrole。

Myfolk'squestionsusuallysurroundtheirpreparatioagesoftheirlives。Ihatethesesituationsbecause，ifIadmitthattheyaregettingold，IamliterallyresighefactthatIamnotfaroff。IaioasI，prayingthatIamadvisiherightthingsbuthowcouldIpossiblyknow？Unlikegiviomydaughter，giviomyparentsinvolvesmeguessingwhattodowithouttheexperiengthroughwhattheyarepresentlyguesstheyaskmebecausetheytrustme，likeIhavealwaystrustedthem。

Iamateafact，Iamahighschoolteacherithyoungadultswhoareabouttoembarkoincludecollege，themilitary，orwork。EverydayIamaskedquestihowtheyshaheirfutures，awayfromalifethatteredontheirpubliostpeopledon'trealizethatgraduatingfromhighschooliso&quhtsofpassag"oursocietyhas。Thisistruebecausetheseyoungareleavihadtakenupover75%lives。

So，Iadvicethemastowhatindustrieswillbeimportaheygetoutofcollege；whatmilitaryservicetheyshouldlookinto，ioachievewhattheythioaesjusttotelltheseyoungmelifeisawandthattheyarefortuageoftheirliveswheretheyareabouttobeeadults。EverytimetheyleaveIpraythatIgavethemgoodadviybest。

&imespeopleIdon'tknowaskformyadvice。Theparentsofmystudentsusuallyaskwhattheyshoulddotomaketheirchild'sfuturebright。Sometimestheyaskwhattheyshoulddobecausetheirchilddoesn'tlistenordoesn'tbelievewhattheyaretellingthem。Iassumetheyaskmebecausetheybelieveateachershouldknowtheahatortheylookatmygrayhairandbeardamyageesmyabilitytoknow。

ThebasiwithWebster'sdefinitionofadviceisthatitdoesn'ttakeintoattheadvisor。Doestheadvisoruheproblemaheabilitytohelpwithadethepast，didIgivemydaughter，pares，ahecorrectadvice？

IthinkI'llgivemydaughteradaskherforsomeadvice！

韦氏字典中“建议”一词的定义如下：“对某种行为提出意见或忠告。”