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第9章 每个成功者都知道的秘密 9（第1页）

第9章每个成功者都知道的秘密（9）

&imeyousayyestoagoalorobjective，yousaynotmanymore。Everyprizehasitsprice。Theprizeistheyes;thepriceisthenoriedUkrainian-Ameribaritooldofhisearlydaysstudyingvoiokeapipe，butonedayhisprofessorsaid，"Igor，youwillhavetomakeupyourmiheryter，reatpipe-smoker，youotbeboth。"Sothepipewent。

Delayedgratifi

M。ScottPeck，M。D。，authorofthebest-sellerTheRoadLessTraveled，describesthistoolofdiseas"aprocessofsgthepainandpleasureoflifeinsuchawayastoehepleasurebymeetingahepainfirstaoverwith。"

Thismightiinedailydeethingassimpleasskippingafavoritelate-nightTVshowaobedearly，tobewideawakeforameetimhtiermresolves。Ayoungiththreedecidedtoiherilementiionforherself。Shesideredtherealitiesofatightbudgetaime，buttheseseemedsmallsacrifireturhatadegreewouldopen。Todaysheisahighlypaidfinansultant。

&ofsueingpastthedrudgeryahedelight。"Thefactisthatmanyworthwhileendeavorsaren'tfun，"sayssyndicatedradioandTVortCrim，"True，alllaymakesJohnnyadullbtoturhioplaymakesforterriblefrustrations，becauselife—everewardingone—includescesthataren'tfunatall。Ilikemyjobasajournalist。It'spersonallysatisfying，bititisn'talwaysfun。"

Agabalance

Neverfusedisewithrigidity。Perfeottheaim;rather，striveforthepeaindthatbeinginchargeofyourself。

Mostofuserludesinourworktotakeawalkoreatsnack-whateverrevivesandrefreshes。Yourbreathersdon'thytoshakeoutthedgivesomerelief。Suchrewardsativesforfinishingatask，asingyoutomaium。

Truediseachievesabalance，n。Evendiseedstobedised。

Self-development

Disedpeoplearehappierpeoplebecausetheyarefulfilliial。Awomanatoneofmyseminarstoldmeabouthersixyear-olddaughterithateamandpracticedeverymforanhour，swimming2000to3000meters，sherelatedaversatihterhadwithafamilyfriend。

"Doyoulikeswimming?"thefriendasked。

"Yes，Iloveit。"

"Isitfun?"

"No!"

Thatsix-year-oldhadlearmanyadultshejoyofdisdself-development。Uheveryworddiseputsusoffbecauseitsouiveandpuruaalkingustomakesurewetoetheliruediseisn'tonyourbagyouwithimperatives;itisatyourside，nudgingyouwithiives。Whehatdiseisself-otself-g，youwon&#eatitsmention，butwillcultivateit。

CharleyBoswell，aformerUyofAlabamafootballstarwithhopesofaprofessionalbaseballcareer，losthiseyesightinWorldWarII，butthatdidn'tstophim"tobeetheNationalBlindGolfes。"Hewasquotedassaying，"IwhatI'velost。IonlytwhatIhaveleft。"Thatisself-development—thatisdise。

Habit-gstrategies

Manyaperson'sdowryingtogeabadhabitbyfoanundesirablebehaviortoreplaceit。

tlesspeopletellmetheywouldliketoeatbetterbutdon'twantto"giveup"tastyfood。Ratherthanthinkingaboutwhatthey'thave，theyshouldthinkaboutwhattheyeat。Fruitjuicewithsparklierisadelicioussubstitutefh-caloriesoftdrinks;snadcookiespreparedwithwholegrainsasgivedybarsgoodpetition。

Itisogeoldhabits。Awomaaseminarandsaid，"I'msoundised。I'tsticktoadietandmyhouseisalwaysamess。Ifeellikeaslob。"Itoldhershewasn'ttotallyundised。"Youmadeittothisce。Youarrivepromptlyatea，alydressed。"Shealmostsmiled，andthe;There'sprobablyareasonwhyyouhaven'tbeeoloseweightetyourhomei;

Later，Ifoundouttherewasabigreason。Sheedayearbefore。Herhusbandhadbeenanalcoholicwhoverballyabusedherall24yearse。Itneveroccurredtoherthatapoorself-imageingherfromeffegpositiveges。Withthisrealizatioheepinbringingmoredisetoherlife—bygoingforg。Meanwhile，someofherfrieoetoherhouseandhelpherup，puttingherevenmoresolidlyonahabit-gcourse。

Mier

IremembermyschooldaysandMom&#ularreveille:"Timetogetup!"Iagonizedihelastminuteandranmymother'spatieheodhadtogetmyselfup。Finally，tiredofakihatwhenthealarmrang，Iwouldrise—justbecauseIwaardlessofhowIfelt。Ithasworkedeversince。

InFeelingGood，TheherapyDavidD。Burns，M。D。，writes:"Motivatioefirst，adoes!Youhavetoprimethepump。Ifyouwaituntilyou're'inthemood，'youmaywaitforever。"Whenyoudon'tfeellikedoihiitoff，butit'softeiaskthatwebeehighlymotivated。