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第2章 爱无处不在HowtoFindTrueLove2（第1页）

第2章爱无处不在HowtoFindTrueLove（2）

Atthetime，Ilivedwithabeautifulroommate。Flowerspiledupatourdoorlikesnowdrifts，aontheansweringmaealwaysblinkedinapanickyway，overloadedwithmessagesfromheradmirers。Limousiside，withdateswaitingforherbehindtintedwindows。Inmymind，lovewassomethiintedarition，partshadow，definitelyunreachable。Wheedhappy-lookingcouples，I’dwoheyfoutofollowthemhomefortheanswer。

AfterafewyearsiyIgotmydreamjaboutweddingsfazinecalled7Days。IhadtofiingengageddwriteuptheirlottoasktersthethingsI’dalwayswaoknow。

Ifouoothequestion“Howdoyouknowit’slove？”Youkheeverydaythingssurroundiheshadeoflightinthesky，abowlofstrawberries—suddehakiy。

Youkiailsaboutanotherpersoareinsignifiostpeople，seemfasgaoyou。Ooldmehelabouthisfuturewife，fromherhandwritingtothewayshescrattheirapartmentdoor，likeashee。Onebridesaidshefellihherfiancebeenight，amothwasflyingaroundalightbulb，aitathewindow。Isaid，‘That’sit。He’stheguy。’”Youalsoknowit’slovewhenyou’tstoptalkiher。AlmosteverycoupleI’veeverihatoorseddate，theytalkedforhoursandhours。Forsome，fallinginloveislikewalkingintoasoundproofalbooth，aplacewhereyoutellall。Findinglovebelikedisgagildedballroomohersideyapartment，aimelikefindingapairofgreatoldbluejeansthatareexactlyyoursizeandseemasifyou’vewornthemforever。I’ttellyouhowmaoldmetheykheywereiheyfottoaroundtheirboyfrieheyfellateasehangingaroundhiminflannelpajamas。There’ssomemoderntruthtoderella’stale—it’slovewhenyou’veincrediblyfortable，thesperfectly。

Finally，Ithinkyou’veinloveifyoumakeeachhattheveryworsttimes—whentheIRSisauditingyouorwhenyavertibleinarainstormorwhenyourhairisturninggray。Assomeooldme，90pertofbeinginloveismakiher’slivesfunnierahewaytothedeathbed。

SevenyearsagoIstartedwritingaboutloveandweddingsfortheimesinancalled“Vows”。AndnowthatIhavebeenof，astrahinghashappened：I’msideredaohis，loveisstillmostlyamysterytome。TheonlythingIfidentlysayisthis：Loveisasplentifulasoxygen。Youdohin，naturallyblond，super-successful，soed，knowledgeableaboutpolitiparticularlygtofindit。

&ervielenontheirlueveryway—aballerinawithis，aphysicistwhohadbeeed）disastrousblinddates，aetplayerwhowasasingledadandcouldbarelypaytherent。Butlove，whentheyfhthumor，dlelight，home-eals，fuure，poetryandloionsintotheirlives。

Whenpeopleaskmewheretofiellastoryaboutoneofmyfirstjobiwaswithaafamazine。Ihadnoexperienceorskills，aforonesesiderhirihegavemesomeadviceIwill。Hesaid，“Gooutintotheworld。Workhardaeonwhatyoulovet。Ifyoubeegood，wewillfindyou。”

That’seoplelookingforlovetowaitforthat“Iwoery”feeling-ait！Doiclesaboutho，seduotizeamate。Don’tworryaboutyourlipstickht，becauseit’snotgoingtomatter。Justliveyourlifewell，takecareofyourself，anddooomuch。Lovewillfindyou。

&uallyiteve28，Imetmyhusband。Atastatioore，Iwasbuyierribbon，andhewaslookingatFilofaxes。Irememberthathiseyesperfectlymatchedhisfadedjeahatmysneakerswerefullofsaalksaboutthosesneakersandhowtheyevokedhischildhood—boheonthesandinahosethingsthathecherished。

HowdidIknowthatitwastruelove？Ourfirstrealdatelastedforninehours：wejust’tstoptalking。Ihadodanmylife，butIcewithhim，perfestep。Ihavelear’slovewhenyoufinallystoveryourtoes。

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Ihaveetocherishwritingthe“Vows”oryIhear，Ihaveproofthatlove，optimism，guts，grace，perfeersandgoodlufact，exist。Love，inmyopinion，isnotafantasy，uffofromanovelsorfairytales。It’sasgrittyahesubway，itesaroundjustasregularly，andaslongasyoustickitoutoform，youwon’tmissit。